Now not everyone knows that I am a medium and many of my work colleagues have no idea what I do outside of the office. But on that afternoon, I took the opportunity to explain to this co-worker that I believe that those “unexplained” smells or other flashes of sound, images, memories, etc. that appear to happen for “no reason at all” are actually communication from your loved ones in the spirit world - or in some cases from your guides, angels or Higher Self. If we learn how to tune into those moments, taking a second or two to recognize what memory is triggered or to even ask, “Who is this?,” we will know who is sending us love and letting us be aware of their presence.
You see, our loved ones who have experienced the transition we call Death - departing their physical bodies to return to the higher vibrational world of Spirit actually miss us and want to spend time with us as much, if not more than, we do them. The more we tune in and acknowledge these moments of communication, the more often we will become aware of our loved ones. For me, there’s a magical reassurance that we are never alone, that we are always connected to others through love.
Some years ago, not long before I decided to develop and train as a medium, I had several moments - months apart - where I was struck by the sensation that felt like a friend of mine named Ines, who had passed several years before of breast cancer, was actually present and we were reliving memories together. Initially I dismissed it as my imagination, a kind of loneliness or a twinge of grief that comes from missing a lost friend. By the third time it happened, however, I began to wonder if it was actually her soul present with me. I decided whether it was or not, it was wonderful to allow myself to “feel” her presence and began to sometimes talk with her.
Then one day, about a year after I first noticed these “visits,” I came home from a very emotional day visiting another friend who was gravely ill in the hospital and I was quite concerned would be with us much longer in the physical world. I arrived home, crying as I allowed myself to process the fear that my friend might die, and as I headed down the hallway to my bedroom, I felt just as if my friend, Ines, had joined me in the hallway. This made perfect sense to me, because Ines had also known and liked this friend who was so gravely ill. And that night, thinking Ines was drawing near to help my friend cross over, I said out loud with peace and certainty, “ Hello, Ines. I’m so glad you’re here. Please help K…” The next day I received the incredible news that my seriously ill friend had been visited by a surgeon whom had not previously evaluated her and had immediately taken her into surgery. That surgery began the path of nearly miraculous recovery for that friend. A week later while receiving my first reading from a medium, who knew nothing about either friend. I commented that I had recently felt the presence of a friend who had passed away. Without a single other piece of information from me, the medium immediately said my friend stepped forward and began to provide a detailed description of my friend Ines’ appearance, personality including her laugh, what we did together, that Ines had been an artist and what kind of paintings she had done. I was humbled and in awe of the confirmation, and so happy that Ines’ indicated she was excited to know that I understood when she was present.
Some of you might be thinking, “Of course, you were aware because you’re a medium, but that can’t work for me.” My response is this. We all have the ability to tune into these “visits” or “messages” from our loved ones IF we allow ourselves to be open to the possibility and to pay attention.
Programming from our post-industrial, “science-based" society tells us that such communication is not possible. We dismiss such situations as “just our imagination.” Without occasional positive feedback from our clients, even the most experienced medium entertains the same doubts. Fortunately for me, like that other medium has done for me, I have been able to confirm for friends and clients that who they “thought” was present or communicating was actually whom they “imagined” it had been. But independent confirmation is unnecessary if we just trust that each and every single one of us receives these visits and has the capacity to acknowledge them.
In fact, the more that you talk about loved one who have crossed to the Spirit World, especially sharing memories of happy times, the more we draw these loved ones close and help facilitate the energetic frequency necessary to support communication on an intuitive or telepathic level. The more you recognize and acknowledge that loved one’s presence, the easier it becomes to recognize them and how they communicate with you. Talk to those loved ones out loud or in your head. Thank them for the visit or the sign. Tell them what type of sign you’d like or how happy or comforted or loved it makes you feel to know they are with you. Then allow whatever sensations, smells, sounds, feelings, or memories to arise and comfort you.
One of the greatest privileges of what I have chosen to do professionally is to constantly be reminded that we are never alone and what an amazing capacity our loved ones in Spirit have to express their unconditional love for us and present proof that they are still living with us despite no longer being in a physical body. When we relax and trust what we are receiving, our connection between both worlds grows stronger.
If we are in deep grief or are very “attached” emotionally to the desire for a specific soul to visit, we can actually create lower or heavier vibrations which make it difficult for the communication to happen. This is why sometimes it seems like a soul needs to be in the Spirit World for a certain amount of time in order to communicate, yet others report seeing or experiencing such communication shortly after or even nearly simultaneously with a passing.
Relax, trust and know that love never ends and that our loved ones are always connected to us. Then enjoy and acknowledge those times when you are blessed with the signs of their presence. Be aware and trust these miraculous connections, and watch the magic unfold in your life.
There are many ways that people experience these visits or messages in future posts, I’ll relay stories that illustrate the variety of ways we might be receiving communication.
With love and blessings to all of you until next time!